The Compassionate Friends Australia

As one of the largest mutual self-help bereavement organisations, our members understand the true pain that comes with the death of a son or daughter, brother or sister or grandchild and this understanding comes from their own lived experience. 

The primary purpose of The Compassionate Friends is to assist bereaved families in the rebuilding of their lives after the death of their child, and to support their efforts to achieve, emotional and mental health. 

We offer friendship and reach out to parents, siblings and grandparents to support them in their grief and trauma, following the death of a child at any age and from any cause.

TCF has no religious affiliation and offers support to bereaved families irrespective of, ethnic, social or political background.


The funeral of Margaret Eva Harmer will be held at the Glen Waverley Uniting Church, on the corner of Bogong Avenue and Kingsway, Glen Waverley, on 24th February 2022, commencing at 2:30pm.

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to The Compassionate Friends

The live streaming link is here.


Dear Friends,

It is with great sadness that I pass on the news that our co-founder, Margaret Harmer, passed away on 15th February 2022.

Margaret and her husband, Lindsay, founded TCF in Australia in 1978. Margaret was also appointed as co-patron of TCFV in August 2021. Their legacy has been felt by all who have sought support through TCF and for those who will continue to into the future.

We send our condolences to her family and friends. She will be sadly missed.

Details of her funeral will be confirmed but the tentative date is Thursday 24th February at 2pm.

Yours sincerely,

Lisa Gelbart,
Acting President TCFV

The founder of The Compassionate Friends, Rev. Canon Simon Stephens, with Margaret Harmer and Lindsay Harmer (d. 2019).


Margaret, with Lindsay.


TCF Victoria’s formative years: Margaret and Lindsay in 1982.


Starting in Victoria, there are now state-based organisations (chapters) in: 

* Currently supported by TCF Victoria


Office administration is care of the Victorian office.

Read more about us and meet the current directors by clicking here.

National Grief Line 1300 064 068

TCF is not a crisis service. If you need immediate crisis support, please contact:

Suicide Line 1300 651 251, Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467, Lifeline 13 11 14